Tuesday, July 14, 2015

Why I Don't Respond to these kinds of things...

Change is hard.
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There are a lot of individual response to the same sex marriage that are slightly offensive.  A few counties are trying not to give marriage licenses.  A Judge in Dallas makes everyone (gay and straight) sign a statement that they understand he doesn't approve of gay marriage and will not discuss it before, during or after the ceremony or he will stop the ceremony.  A Missouri copunty is flying their flags at half-staff to mourn the decision.  Alabama Judge Roy Moore and US blowhard Pat Buchanan have both warned of civil war over this.
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I generally ignore these responses.  Not because they are offensive, but because I kind of get it.  These are the equivalent of a scream over a canyon, or a child throwing his food on the floor.  These people are mad and don't know how to react.  And to say it doesn't effect them is both true and beside the point.
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There politicians and many (but not all) religious leaders have warned of dire, horrible consequences if same sex marriage occurs.  And they are afraid of it.
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I get it, change is hard.
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But, if I could tell them anything at all, is that same sex marriage is (honestly) a big fat zero change after it happens.  It is soon a non-event.  Those two gay guys you see holding hands - you can hate them (or ignore them) the same if they are married or just hooking up.  Except for the rings, you would hardly know we are married.  You see we loved and committed to each other in the absence of marriage, so getting married isn't a big deal.
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And, trust me, it will very soon be a non-event.
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So I don't write and get upset about it because that would only feed their fears.  And their anger, acting out and frustration is just fear.  Mainly of the unknown.  The easier I go with it, the quicker it will fade away.

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